How To Improve On Your Marriage! (5) by Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Topic: How To Improve On Your Marriage! (5)
I strongly believe you enjoyed the Christmas celebration. I feel so delighted to say to you: Happy New Year in advance! Sounds of joy shall not cease from your habitation in Jesus’ name.
I started this teaching by notifying you that marriage is a miracle. Also, I unveiled to you marriage covenant responsibilities. I also taught on beware of divorce. Today, as 2016 gradually rolls by and never to be observed again, I wish for you to Make Right the Wrongs of your Marriage Covenant!
Time never corrects an error! An error yesterday remains an error today, except it is corrected. You can make a wrong, right! Many people, today, pass through a lot of difficulties in their marriage because of a wrong foundation in their marriage. I have seen women being driven out of their homes at the death of their husbands, because their union was “illegal”. The woman had no voice, because she had no legal backing. Wisdom is profitable to direct (Ecclesiastes 10:10).
I remember a woman I counselled sometime ago. She had been going through tough times in her home, and was ready to call it quits. To top it up, she had no child. When I interviewed her closely, I discovered that there were a lot of loopholes in her marriage. Her dowry was not paid, and there was nothing legally binding herself and the man together, as husband and wife. No court wedding, no church wedding; both of them just started living together!
I counselled her to ensure that the dowry was paid, legal papers signed in the court of law, and that their union be blessed by a minister of the gospel. The next time I saw her, she was over-joyous and full of testimonies. To the glory of God, today all is well with that marriage. To crown it all, she was expecting a baby as at that time!
If the foundation of your marriage is not built on instructions from the Word of God, there is no way you will have a fulfilled family life. It is important, therefore, that you go and pay the dowry, if it has not been paid. This is scriptural!
Furthermore, parental blessing is very important in a marriage covenant, as read in Genesis 24:58-60. It is something you cannot rule out. There is something about the blessings your parents pronounce on you that makes it stick on you until all their good wishes are established in your life. From the account in the Scripture quoted above, Abraham’s servant did not just grab Rebekah and disappear with her. No! Rather, due procedures were properly followed, and the blessings of her parents became a practical reality in her life.
It is also very important in your marriage covenant to acknowledge the place of a holy Christian wedding. The Word of God says: And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:22). In this verse of Scripture, we see God’s practical involvement in the institution of marriage. He gave Eve out to Adam. It is, therefore, unsafe for you to go into marriage without God. This will definitely attract the attacks of the devil. You shall not be a victim in Jesus’ name!
Are you reading this article and have been living together with your partner without the payment of dowry, or any formal engagement/ public Christian wedding? Or you have been living together for years and have even had children, without a proper marriage. This is not a holy union.
Instead of feeling or living in condemnation, you need to make things right, today, by paying the dowry. Go and legalise your union. A proper legal documentation of your union is that point of contact to remind God that you have fulfilled all righteousness concerning your marriage, and therefore, the enemy must not have access into your family. You can do this simply by going to the court for a court wedding. Then look for a minister of the gospel to bless your union.
You need the grace of God to make every wrong, right in your marriage. That grace only is available to those who have acceptable Jesus as their Lord and Saviour. That is what it means to be born again. If you desire to become born again, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through [email protected]; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).