How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 04
Some couples have been living together for years and have even had children together without a proper marriage; no dowry has been paid, nor have they had any form of formal engagement. The account of the first marriage recorded in Genesis 2 clearly shows us that a form of formal wedding was conducted in the Garden of Eden. Adam did not just rise up to find Eve wandering about in another part of the garden, take her home, and both of them started living together. The Word of God says that God …Brought her unto the man… (Genesis 2:22). In other words, God had to physically deliver her to Adam.
Again, we understand that marriage is the basis for the family. If you must enjoy a sweet and a successful family, then you must first be married. You have to follow God’s laid down principles for marriage which guarantees God’s blessings. You must pay the dowry which is scriptural. That you are a Christian does not override the payment of that which is due to the parents. The Word of God says: And Jesus answering said unto them, Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s. (Mark 12:17). Dowry payment is the right of the bride’s family, so ensure that you give it to them
The Book of Genesis records a very graphic picture of a typical wedding, and all that is required to be done. Abraham sent his servant to get a wife for his son, Isaac, from among his brethren. God prospered the servant’s journey and he found Rebekah (Genesis 24:51-53). I want you to know that precious things were given to Laban, who was at this point acting as the head of the family, and to Rebekah’s mother also.
However, I must mention that in the payment of dowry, you should watch the kind of things you present as dowry. Anything you know that will affect your Christian testimony should never be given. I remember what happened when my husband and I were about to get married. My parents gave my husband a list of items to bring as dowry, and the list contained some items that would affect our Christian testimony. My husband simply discussed with them how such an act could affect us in future, in the light of the Word of God, and those items were taken off the list. You have to let them know your stand, because no parent wants to jeopardize the future of their children. All it takes is a right word spoken in season. The Bible says: How forcible are right word! (Job 6:25). If you approach your parents with the right words, I am definitely sure they will listen to you. Just ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to speak as you ought to, and to make you sensitive to right timing. That way, you will win them over to your side.
Having performed all that is required, you must ensure that you obtain parental blessings. There is something about the blessings your parents pronounce on you that stick to you until all their good wishes be established in your life. Abraham’s servant did not just grab Rebekah and disappeared with her. The Bible records in Genesis 24:58-60: And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go… And they blessed Rebekah, and said unto her, Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of millions, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them. These blessings became a practical reality in her life, and indeed we are all part of the thousands of millions prophesied upon Rebekah (Galatians 4:28). You shall also experience this dimension of blessings in Jesus’ name.
The place of a holy Christian wedding is also very important in a proper marriage. In Genesis 2:22, we see God’s practical involvement in the institution of marriage. He was the one who gave Eve out to Adam. It will therefore, be unsafe to imagine you can survive the wickedness and attacks of the devil on the marriage institution without God. If truly God is your Father, and you know that only a bastard would desire to go outside his father’s house to get married, then you would understand why you need God’s blessing upon your marriage.
What happens at Christian weddings is that God is invited to be a part of the union, occupying His primary place in your union. That cannot be overlooked. So, ensure a proper Christian wedding. In case you are already living together or you were never married in the church, it is important that you make arrangements with your pastor for your union to be blessed, even if you cannot have an open church wedding like it is done with new couples.
It is also very important to have a proper legal documentation of your union. In God’s dealing with man, He always ensures that there is a token, which acts as a constant reminder of the terms of the covenant. A legal backup for your marriage is not a safety device, as the world would consider it. It is simply a point of contact to remind God that you have fulfilled all righteousness concerning your marriage; therefore, the enemy must not have any access into your family. Remember, God’s presence will always make the difference in your marriage.
If you want God to occupy the primary place in your marriage, why not surrender your life to Him and become born again, if you are yet to be. Pray this prayer and you shall be born again:
“Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
YOU MIGHT ALSO READ:
- How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 01
- How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 02
- How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 03
- How To Have A Successful Courtship Part 04
WRITTEN BY: PASTOR MRS FAITH OYEDEPO