Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (3) by: Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Topic: Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (3)
It is a glorious Week! This week, I will be looking at the tool of “Wisdom” in fulfilling your dream marriage. A lot of times, people dream about the perfect home where joy, peace, abundance and fruitfulness abound. Such dreams are good if you determine to do what is required to realize them. Just as physically you cannot own a home by merely wishing, if you plan on having a glorious family, stop wishing and prepare to play your part. You must accept responsibility for the building of your family. God’s Word says: For every house is builded by some man… (Hebrews 3:4).
Houses don’t happen by chance, they are built – they are made to happen. Every house is built by some man… In the world, people say, “This is our family house”. A family house didn’t just appear on the earth. Likewise, marriage and family from the Word of God are types of houses. It takes applying conscious steps to see them built up before they can be enviable. Just as no physical house springs up suddenly on one particular day, similarly the family house requires planning, making available required materials and the actual building process before it’s built up.
The Lord has put into your hands all that you require to enjoy a most enviable and fulfilling family life. God has done His part, He has handed the baton over to you. God’s Word says: …. For all things are yours (I Corinthians 3:21).
How then can you create fulfillment and refreshing in your family? How do you build up your home? Through WISDOM is an house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3).
I have noticed in the course of counselling that most of the problems encountered in homes are as a result of lack of wisdom. Wisdom is what makes a home sweet. With wisdom, you know what to do and what not to do at the appropriate time. As a husband, if you walk in wisdom, you will know how to relate with your wife and train up your children, not beating them up and posing to be a terror to your household. Wives who are full of wisdom find that they relate easily with their in-laws and other members of the family.
From the anchor text, you need to search for wisdom to operate in your home. Therefore, open up and receive the wisdom you require to handle those situations correctly so that peace and joy can fill your family life.
The opposite of wisdom is foolishness. It is a problem rooted in the realm of the spirit. It is what causes a woman to react negatively, speak abusive words (Proverbs 9:13) and misbehave. It is what causes a man to chase other women to the destruction of his soul (Proverbs 7:7-23). Foolishness is a destroyer of the peace and sweetness of the home. If you learn to walk in wisdom, you will enjoy fulfillment in your family life. God’s Word declares: Wisdom is the principal thing… (Proverbs 4:7).
The type of wisdom I am referring to here is not that which comes from education. So, don’t regret your level of education saying, “If I had gone to a higher institution I would be wiser than I am now.” The wisdom you require to shine in your family is from God. It is knowing what to do when confronted with an unpleasant situation and is based on your knowledge and application of the Word of God in your life. God’s Word says: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock (Matthew 7:24).
Who then is a wise man? He is the one who hears and does the sayings of Jesus. These sayings are located in the Bible. As you hear the Word of God and apply them correctly by practising it in your life, then you are walking in wisdom. However, there are conditions you must fulfill before you can receive the wisdom of God.
Marriage can be likened to a house and every house has a foundation. If the foundation of a house is not well laid or laid on poor quality materials, that house has a faulty foundation and is sure to collapse (Psalm 11:3). Wisdom is a sure and quality material for building honour into your marriage and home. Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3).
Your marriage can be rock-steady i.e. it can be an example for others to follow. Like Billy Graham, Kenneth Hagin and a host of others, you can have cause to look back and smile during your sixtieth wedding anniversary. But the foundation of your family must be laid in wisdom. For instance, Solomon wanted to establish the Kingdom God had given him; so, when God appeared unto him and asked him what he needed to rule Israel, he asked for wisdom, and God gave it to him (I Kings 3:9, 12).
God has made provision for marriage to produce honour for you and I, but we have a responsibility to develop that plan. It is like the negative of a picture. The photographer must spend time in the darkroom developing the negative until he gets a beautiful and enviable picture.
However, if you are not born again, it will be difficult for you to operate in wisdom. The first step to take is to surrender your life to Jesus Christ. You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are set for this, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, congratulations, you are born again! You are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).