Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (2): by Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Topic: Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage (2)
Instability is one of the circumstances facing the average family today. When adequate responsibility is not taken by couples, everything tumbles, causing separation, infidelity and unfulfillment in the homes.
You don’t have to go through any of those heart-shaking experiences. In fact, your home can become so stable that you are not aware others are collapsing. This shall be your own experience from today in Jesus’ name! Last Week, I taught on taking responsibility.
This week, I will be teaching on “Knowledge in Fulfilling Your Dream Marriage.” The main cause of the turmoil families are going through today is the devil, who is the enemy on the loose. He afflicts and brings exaction on families through his wiles (tricks). God’s Word says: The enemy shall not exact upon him; nor the son of wickedness afflict him (Psalm 89:22). Exaction means to demand something great from someone, while ‘afflict’ means to cause sorrow, trouble or heartache. The Lord is saying the enemy shall no more demand from you the peace your family should enjoy or the love and harmony it should enjoy; no more shall the wickedness of this world afflict or cause you sorrow, heartache or trouble. Isn’t that wonderful news to be able to say: “I am at peace, my family is peaceful and full of joy”, when others are running around and looking for help?
The devil has tricks he uses to afflict families. In order to effectively resist him and enjoy a stable home, your trust must not be in your self effort; rather it must be in the Almighty God. The Lord is a rock, He is very stable; when you anchor your life on Him, you become stable (Hebrews 6:19-20).
If your life is anchored on the Lord Jesus, then you are not alone in these pressure-filled times. God’s Word has been made available to give you absolute exemption. As long as you contend with the enemy and give no room to him, standing on God’s Word, you will never have to go through instability in your family.
One major way, through which the enemy afflicts families and causes heartache, is IGNORANCE. For example, husband and wife are at home talking and smiling and suddenly the face of the man changes, the language of the tongue changes, and before you know what is happening, the two people that were talking together are fighting – the bedroom has been turned to a wrestling ring, all because of ignorance. Therefore, the only solution for ignorance is KNOWLEDGE i.e. knowledge of the facts of a situation and the knowledge of how to solve it. The Bible says: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge because thou has rejected knowledge… (Hosea 4:6). The word ‘destroy’ in the above talks about being stripped of honour and dignity. You are denied of the results, honour and respect you should be enjoying all because of ignorance. The knowledge we are talking about is not academic, physical or social. No! I am talking of the knowledge of God and His Word. The Living Bible translation says: My people are destroyed because they don’t know me, and it is all your fault…
You can get to know God through His Word (the Bible) and His Word is the only agent of true freedom (John 8:32). My dear husband says all the time, “Freedom is the only evidence of knowledge”. When the knowledge of the truth comes concerning that situation in your life, home and family and you apply the required knowledge and wisdom from God’s Word, you become free from the heartaches and sorrows that such situations would have caused you earlier on. One thing God’s Word says to families is: …Ye husbands, dwell with them (your wife) according to knowledge giving honour unto the wife… (I Peter 3:7). Husbands, you need to know your wife; not just physically but know her likes, dislikes, her background, her way of thinking, why she behaves the way she does, etc.
You may think you’ve known your spouse well enough during courtship, but I tell you there are lots of undiscovered things you need to know and understand about each other. A month, a year, etc is not enough. That’s why marriage is a lifetime experience. You never know everything at once; you get to know more each passing day. You can get to know each other better by communicating, asking questions like: “Why did you do that?”, “How do you feel about this?” in a calm and respectful manner. You can also start doing things together, spending time together and studying each other closely.
The key to knowing each other better is sincerity; being truthful, unashamed and not afraid of betrayal knowing that God is present to help both of you. Some husbands are afraid to tell their wives the truth, while some wives do the same. Learn to be patient and build trust in each other. The Bible says: Now although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was embarrassed or ashamed (Genesis 2:25 TLB). The “nakedness” spoken of here is not only physical but also emotional (your feelings), and spiritual (your goals, desires); they spoke their heart to each other. They did not hide the truth from each other. I must tell you that this makes for better understanding and peaceful relationship. Ignorance of what your spouse needs and what is going on in their minds or lives is what causes quarrels most times.
To conqueror ignorance, the first step to take is to surrender your life to Jesus Christ. You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour.
If you are ready for this, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today acknowledging that I am a sinner who needs Your forgiveness. I believe You died for me and rose again on the third day. Forgive me my sins, wash me with Your Blood and write my name in the Lamb’s Book of life. Thank You Lord for saving me.”
If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, congratulations, you are born again! You are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).